If you have been in a relationship for an extended period, I guess you are with me when I say that there is no such thing as the perfect relationship. Even in the best ones, there will be discussions and disagreements and if the relationship is strong enough it will last through those problematic times, but sometimes it’s not enough and relationships end.
The idea for writing about this topic came to me a while ago. I saw how much you guys liked another of my articles titled how often is normal where the topic is also about relationships. I was watching a tv show a while ago, where a Romanian coach was being interviewed on how you define a healthy relationship. She mentioned that sometimes women feel trapped in a relationship with a man because it’s hard to give up and start all over again. Move and not have the support you used to have, especially if you become a single mom. We all say “I love you” so easily but a relationship needs more than that. Love can be shown in so many ways and it does not mean you have to stay in a unhealthy relationship just because you’ve been together for a long time. So what is a healthy relationship? And how do you know you are in one?
The University of Washington has a guide for their students to help identify their relationship as healthy: Two people with a connection based on :
- Mutual respect
- Separate identities
- Good communication
- A sense of playfulness/fondness
All good points, and from my own experience I would also add that being able to be yourself with the person you are in a relationship with, and helping each other is the definition of a healthy relationship.
Why is having a healthy relationship so important to me?
- Having stability at home lowers your stress level. It’s a part of your life that you don’t need to worry about, and even better your significant other offers you comfort and support.
- Being able to create a healthy relationship at home will teach you how to create other healthy relationships around you with your friends, family and neighbours.
- For me, when I think of the word relationship, I think of something long term. It means commitment, patience and maturity. I can definitely say that my relationship has changed me a lot, I notice it in the way I think now. The decisions that I take now compared to how I use to think and how impulsive I was. I had long relationships before but they were always centered around drama and conflict, always something going on both his and my side.
- After years together, a relationship changes, but in the best ones the butterflies in your stomach are still there. Five years later and sometimes I still feel butterflies in my stomach when I see him at the door.
- Being in a healthy relationship means you are with someone that loves you just the way you are, no masks, no makeup in the morning and even if sometimes you scream like crazy (not me hahah) he still loves you. Which means that you learn to love yourself also, both the good and the bad parts, which every human has.
lifeoptimizer.org say “relationships fulfils your most important need of all”. A beautiful article that I wholeheartedly recommend reading.
I look forward to see you back on my website!
Are you in a healthy loving relationship?