Did your 30’s turn out as you dreamed in your 20’s? Is 30 the age you were waiting for?
How did you imagine your 30’s when you were in your 20’s
If you are still under 30, I am sure you are with me when I say that we all have dreams and hopes for our future and often say “until I am in my 30’s, I still have time to party” or “ I will have my life, career and everything all figured by then” or “ I will start a family when I am in my 30’s” or “I will get my shit together until I am 30“.
Now, If you are in your 30’s like me, let’s agree that not all of us got our shit together by the age of 30, in fact often shit is more messed up than it was in our 20’s, is this true for you?
There is a lot of pressure for the age of 30, you are not old but you are not as young as you were when you were in your 20’s, this is the age when you really have to focus on building the life that you want. And in reality, this turned out to be harder than I thought.
I turned 30 last year in September and I was feeling so down because of the fact that I grew one year older and was hit with the realization that I didn’t accomplished as much as I thought I would when I was in my 20’s. For me this whole year has been quite tough, I’ve gone from really depressed to really happy, from really optimistic to really pessimist, from really mature to very childish, basically lived in the extremes, it’s like being on my monthly period everyday haha. Lots of stuff have changed in my life some good some for bad but it was definitely a year I will never forget. I am not sure if this is a process of maturity, like some sort of second puberty (haha) but it feels like it’s a struggle between getting to know the real you and building a better version of yourself.
Things I’ve changed in my 30’s
Even though it’s just been one year since I turned 30, like I said many things, ideas, my way of treating people and my way of thinking compared to previous years have changed a lot. For example, I am extremely cautious about money. In my 20’s I couldn’t care less about arriving at the end of the month and not having any money left. Now all I can think about is how to save up money, making sure I am paying my bills not just on time but even earlier, basically making sure I am secure.
If before I was more open when it came to hang out with people or getting to know new people, this year for some reason I felt the completely opposite. I managed to keep an extremely small circle of friends that I trust and whom I can talk to and I am completely fine with that. I’ve learned to say “no” to people I don’t feel like hanging out with and instead appreciate more the time I am spending with people that make me happy.
There is a bit of pressure when you hit 30 to build a family. I just got married which was a big decision for me but now everyone start asking: When will you two have kids? Well to answer that question: I’m not ready yet, not at all. I am not sure if it’s just a passing feeling but having a child it is a big responsibility.
What I eat, how much I drink and exercising, thinking of these things are new for me. You are talking to a girl that used to only eat pizza and burgers all day everyday, drink a few glasses of wine and still be skinny AF. Those days are long gone since now I feel like I put every single bite of food on my belly. I started being more focused on eating healthier, drinking less and trying to be active from time to time, in fact if you are looking for a way to start on your own exercise regime, check out my post how to get started on an exercise regime.
Together with eating healthier, I am also focused more on having healthy skin, healthy hair and in general just a healthy me. I am not using as much makeup as I used to and I’m slowly starting to change to mineral cosmetics since they are healthier and better for your skin, see their importance and the way it affects your skin, HERE. On top of that, I have periods when I don’t wear makeup at all to let my skin breath, see the results HERE. For hair, besides the fact that I cut it all off, I use lots of natural treatments and oils to maintain it.
Basically this year has maybe been a bit selfish, it was all about Me Me Me which fits perfect with some of my favourite quotes ‘’Make yourself a priority once in awhile, it’s not selfish, it’s a necessity.’’
I am not sure where I am going with this article to be honest but I guess with all these changes I am hoping to get some help or advices from women or men that are over their 30’s, perhaps lessons or things they would do in their 30’s if they could do it again. Things I should get ready for. You can either write them in the comments under this post or you can simply mail them to me at [email protected]. Thank you for your time and looking forward to see you back on my website!
Speaking of changes, lately I’ve been posting a lot of work wear outfits, inspirations for all the boss ladies out there and now I am going with a crazy sassy street style outfit. How do you like it?
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